It was the National Day long weekend, concert was over and the 5 of us left for Nirwana Resort, Mayang Sari Villas. It was just simply awesome but I must say Bintan it very expensive too. I spent almost $450 for a day. We had a private pool, the bikini babes had a great time in the pool, peaceful SPA massage, scrub and mask, delicious seafood dinner and we ended the night with strawberry barcardi. I thought it was pretty short but it was truly enjoyable and I must say I got to know the girls a little better.
Was looking at some property, thinking of moving out and living on my own. Im eligible to buy my own place now, but the sad bit is that Im not eligible for the CPF fund or HDB Homeloan because of my payscale! And I cant buy an EC because Im single! What crap right? What do people like mw do then? Buy a private condo? But the prices are up the roof...geez....Looks like Im going to remian single, so I thought I might as well get my own place and move out, so the target is Dec/Jan, I shall start working on it from now.
This week has been reconnecting time with people from my past, some through SMS, and one over coffee. I havent heard from the one that truly matters, missing in action as usual. Must be busy with his babes, anyway I was never his priority, so I should know him better. Dint answer my call today, so I suppose he is with one of his gals. PS called today, I should say I was surprised, It been over a month. What was more surprising is that he passed the phone to his mother, not giving me any reaction time. His parents landed in Canada yesterday. Nice lady, sounds quite down to earth, spoke as if she has known me for ages, this is the first Ive spoken to her. I dont know how my tamil was though. PS asked if I thought of him over this month, I was honest with him, Ive lost it for him. Its over, It never started to begin with. Im beginning to think that relationships are a no no for me. Im fated to be alone I suppose. Let it be then. One colleage during our trip revealed that the impression she has of me is that I am wild. Maybe I am, but its my profession and my bringing up that is keeing me grounded. I am a rebel in my own skin. I love the way I am, and i know my friends and family love me the way I am, but will I find a man who will love me unconditionally? I should say, there are no such man, and I have given up hope certainly.
Sunday, July 29, 2012
Heart Flutters
Heart flutters for one and only one;
The familair yet the not so familiar one;
Feelings that have stayed for the past years;
Sometimes you wonder why after all these years;
The heart wants but the mind has its fears;
Commitment doesnt seem to be his cup of tea;
Both happy in our current shoes;
The heart does seek for that familiar voice;
This is how life is going to be, distance apart and the annual meet.
The familair yet the not so familiar one;
Feelings that have stayed for the past years;
Sometimes you wonder why after all these years;
The heart wants but the mind has its fears;
Commitment doesnt seem to be his cup of tea;
Both happy in our current shoes;
The heart does seek for that familiar voice;
This is how life is going to be, distance apart and the annual meet.
Saturday, May 26, 2012
Sunday, May 20, 2012
PS
Today's cookie fortune: "your first love has never forgotten you". Its funny cos he is already dead. Actually come to think of it, i dream of R during the week and was actually pondering why he came in my dreams. He hasnt appeared for the longest time. There are some answers here:
http://www.dream-interpretation.co.uk/meaning/meaning_of_dreams_about_daffodil.html
PS and I are talking again, not like before but this is the start. I broke the ice this time round. He claims that Ive hurt him, well the same with him. Im not gona sit here and allow him to degrade me. Im glad he realised the women in his country arent what he thinks they are. Im sure he is secretly liking every bit of it. There are certain values and beliefs that I feel strongly about, and im not gona change that for anyone. You can be THE MAN, but sorry Im a woman and I shall not tolerate MCPs. I must agree though that I miss him at times and I love arguing with him :D. As I type certian things I smile to myself. I despise men who do not respect women, I dislike men who think that women should tolerate anything from them regardless of however mean they treat them. Sorry but any self respecting woman will not tolerate such treatment. No men in my family or circle of friends treat their women this way, they believe in equalism and respect, decisions are made together, there is no such thing as 'Im the man and you listen to me'. Sorry but if you are gona be the mama fellow then Im definitely not the one for you. I'll love my man to the fullest, provide and be a pillar of support to him, but if you disrespect me and provoke me, then you'll meet the rebel in me, and PS I think you already have a taste of it. I like you, but Im not gona take shit from you. I despise your attitude and ego. You are a nice person but your attitude and ego is repulsive. And talk about personality, I dont know what to make out of yours yet. You could be putting me through a test and Im aware sometimes you say stuff on purpose. You are free to choose another :D If you want me in your life, you'll know where and how to find me........
http://www.dream-interpretation.co.uk/meaning/meaning_of_dreams_about_daffodil.html
PS and I are talking again, not like before but this is the start. I broke the ice this time round. He claims that Ive hurt him, well the same with him. Im not gona sit here and allow him to degrade me. Im glad he realised the women in his country arent what he thinks they are. Im sure he is secretly liking every bit of it. There are certain values and beliefs that I feel strongly about, and im not gona change that for anyone. You can be THE MAN, but sorry Im a woman and I shall not tolerate MCPs. I must agree though that I miss him at times and I love arguing with him :D. As I type certian things I smile to myself. I despise men who do not respect women, I dislike men who think that women should tolerate anything from them regardless of however mean they treat them. Sorry but any self respecting woman will not tolerate such treatment. No men in my family or circle of friends treat their women this way, they believe in equalism and respect, decisions are made together, there is no such thing as 'Im the man and you listen to me'. Sorry but if you are gona be the mama fellow then Im definitely not the one for you. I'll love my man to the fullest, provide and be a pillar of support to him, but if you disrespect me and provoke me, then you'll meet the rebel in me, and PS I think you already have a taste of it. I like you, but Im not gona take shit from you. I despise your attitude and ego. You are a nice person but your attitude and ego is repulsive. And talk about personality, I dont know what to make out of yours yet. You could be putting me through a test and Im aware sometimes you say stuff on purpose. You are free to choose another :D If you want me in your life, you'll know where and how to find me........
Friday, May 11, 2012
Wandering Mind
As I lay in bed with my laptop my 2 adorable nephews are entertaining me with thier dance and song which sounds very tribal. For some reason they love coming into the room and being around me, they follow me like a trail when I return home and my room is like a playground for both of them. The small one is replying to every sound made by the bigger one, a musical is going on in my room, just that I cant comprehand what each is uttering!
School was good, conducted a talk for all the sec 2 girls on managing relationships and sex. A research in a wall street journal revealed that teenages with multiple failed relationships in their teens are more likely to have troubled relationship later in life. Maybe PS should relook into his past relationships because it is clearly affecting him currently. What he needs is some counselling. I belief how he was treated in his past relationships has a part to play in how he is treating women in the present. He absolutely has no sense of respect. Its shocking how he seeks for other women the moment we have an arguement. Wouldnt you try and make peace with the girl you are dating instead of seeking for someone else? How on earth does he expect someone to marry him if this is how he is going to react? He mentioned about Brenda, that he cared about her. I never said anything to him when he said he is helping her out with money, thats because I understood that he cared about her. Why doesnt he understand that my relationship V is also such? I care about V, he doesnt reciprocate of course, but this is how it is. We dont even communicate with each other but I do care about him. Thats just it, why is that so difficult for PS to grasp?
Went for Mexican with the girls and headed for the clubs on a Wed night. Its been ages since I did drinks after work on a week day. Decided to go for it when the girls asked me out. Had quite a number of glasses of Magarita. I wonder how I get home sometimes, of course the fear of dying on the roads is there all the time when I drive after drinks. Maybe secretely that is what I am wishing for. Thought of PS when I having the Mexican food. We have very similar taste in food and activities. Well he was romantic person, at least in the way he addressed me and when he dedicated songs to me. I cant deny that I did have many enjoyable moments with him, but he is just too full of himself and a total typical Indian at least in the way he thinks. Countless times he has asked if I would cook when we ge married. Seriously which wife wouldnt cook for her husband? His questions are seriously too chauvanistic for me to handle. Maybe he should ask V if I would make a good partner. Amazing how things start and end before you even have a chance to experience it in person. I am just appalled that he did not even try talking to me or try winning me back. Perhaps looking for someone else is easier for him. Men! I shall let it be. Dad asked me along to a wedding tomorrow. Told him thats the last place I want to be right now, dont feel like responding to nosy relatives who will probe with "when is your turn". Probably the next timesomeone asks me when is my turn, my reply would be "Im waiting for your husband to divorce you"...that should keep them away for some time at least :D
School was good, conducted a talk for all the sec 2 girls on managing relationships and sex. A research in a wall street journal revealed that teenages with multiple failed relationships in their teens are more likely to have troubled relationship later in life. Maybe PS should relook into his past relationships because it is clearly affecting him currently. What he needs is some counselling. I belief how he was treated in his past relationships has a part to play in how he is treating women in the present. He absolutely has no sense of respect. Its shocking how he seeks for other women the moment we have an arguement. Wouldnt you try and make peace with the girl you are dating instead of seeking for someone else? How on earth does he expect someone to marry him if this is how he is going to react? He mentioned about Brenda, that he cared about her. I never said anything to him when he said he is helping her out with money, thats because I understood that he cared about her. Why doesnt he understand that my relationship V is also such? I care about V, he doesnt reciprocate of course, but this is how it is. We dont even communicate with each other but I do care about him. Thats just it, why is that so difficult for PS to grasp?
Went for Mexican with the girls and headed for the clubs on a Wed night. Its been ages since I did drinks after work on a week day. Decided to go for it when the girls asked me out. Had quite a number of glasses of Magarita. I wonder how I get home sometimes, of course the fear of dying on the roads is there all the time when I drive after drinks. Maybe secretely that is what I am wishing for. Thought of PS when I having the Mexican food. We have very similar taste in food and activities. Well he was romantic person, at least in the way he addressed me and when he dedicated songs to me. I cant deny that I did have many enjoyable moments with him, but he is just too full of himself and a total typical Indian at least in the way he thinks. Countless times he has asked if I would cook when we ge married. Seriously which wife wouldnt cook for her husband? His questions are seriously too chauvanistic for me to handle. Maybe he should ask V if I would make a good partner. Amazing how things start and end before you even have a chance to experience it in person. I am just appalled that he did not even try talking to me or try winning me back. Perhaps looking for someone else is easier for him. Men! I shall let it be. Dad asked me along to a wedding tomorrow. Told him thats the last place I want to be right now, dont feel like responding to nosy relatives who will probe with "when is your turn". Probably the next timesomeone asks me when is my turn, my reply would be "Im waiting for your husband to divorce you"...that should keep them away for some time at least :D
My new passion
These are my new trials....and my guinea pig....mua daddy :P. Vege Shepperds Pie (Pre & Post baked), Baked Portobello Mushroom with cheese (Pre & Post baked), Mojito, Biscuits with smoked salmon, persian feta sheep milk cheese, avacado and red chilli honey....more to come
Monday, May 7, 2012
Respect!
Today did not start out as a good one. My morning was spoilt by the comment I saw on FB. I dont get why some people would write personal comments on their timeline rather than send a personal mail. Why the need to let his friends know what is happening between us? There isnt any sense of privacy. And it puzzles me why only selective comments are left and the rest are deleted. After all that explanation all he could tel me was to choose between V, S and him! Where did that even come from? Didnt he undersatnd that S and I shared a very platonic relationship? Is having supper with someone who visited my country wrong? S was a real gentleman, we havent spoken since he left SG bcos I did not want to hurt him further. I was taken aback when he asked me to marry him. I apologisd to him if I had given him that thoughts. He said I am a nice person and he would like to marry me. He was willing to move to SG and work. Ive known him since mid 2008. We started off by bitching about shaadi.com. Our friendship was very platonic and he has always been telling me that he never wants to get married. I call him my terrorist, cos initially there were times he would just disappear from me abrubtly. He has never disrespected me. His last message to me "marry someone and start a family". His love for food and the hot weather brings him to singapore on a transit. A nice soul but I did not see hi that way. The relationship with V ended in a year but I have always cared about him and I was hanging on to him for a very long time. V has moved on, and so after a long time I let go of him and accepted PS into my life. There is something about him that did attract me even though he has disrespected me countless times. Noone has disrespected me as much as he has. Or should I say noone has ever disrespected me. I forgave him for the things he said to me and took him for wat he is. But what happened today got me thinking, "if you think ive decided on you, you are wrong", "have you kissed anyone since Dec?", How is a man able to disrespect you to his extent? A real MCP, I didnt like the way he asked me "are you tight there, how many partners did u have, how many did u sleep with?" These people will never utter such words to their own country women, bloody hypocrites! How is it possible to respect someone who disrespects you? Who mentally tortures you with the same questions over and over again, someone who doesnt trust you, doesnt respect your friendship with men, doesnt respect your mother, and your female friends? I think its a norm in the western culture he lives in to fantacise about someone else' mother! Wait til someone else does the same with the women in his family! People like him need to clear their bloody perverted heads before they start judging others. I should have known better, stupid me. How could I let someone disrespect me to this extent? He keep harping on the fact that he 'found out' something, WTF?!? What is there to find out when these people were just friends and are no longer in my life? I committed myself to this man for the past 3 months only to realise that there isnt any commitment from him. Im just 'another one' one in his list. Noone is asking for love or marriage but wouldnt you at least give your 100% to this person u r dating? I did and I am NOT going to feel guilty or take blame for his accusations! He can go and fuck himself fr all I care! I rather be single, at least I know the people around me respect me.
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